Funerals

[Trip]

Originally Posted by Flexin

I read it all before posting.

James

well you are applying what I said to situations that aren't what the OP suggested.

My answer (like pretty much everyone else in the world) will vary if you change the situation.

[dReWpY]

I would if the group did so, but i would take the car if i would be the only one... if a car was an option though

[Rangerscott]

Originally Posted by HokieDNA01

but boots/jeans/guitars weren't a cause of death. I would want to discuss it with the mother first and see how she feels. I would not show up on bikes unannounced.

Neither was his bike. He could have been walking, riding a bicycle, driving a car, etc etc and still die. He just happened to be on his moto.

I do agree on talking to someone before doing a group ride.

[HokieDNA01]

Originally Posted by Rangerscott

Neither was his bike. He could have been walking, riding a bicycle, driving a car, etc etc and still die. He just happened to be on his moto.

I do agree on talking to someone before doing a group ride.

Your still comparing apples to oranges. Riding a motorcycle to a funeral where the death involved a motorcycle is not the same as wearing jeans cause the deceased liked jeans or playing a guitar cause he liked guitar. Parents don't fear jeans and guitars. My mom has a VERY real fear of my motorcycle and I have to convience her often that it makes me happy and that it is worth the risk.

[Rangerscott]

Originally Posted by HokieDNA01

Your still comparing apples to oranges. Riding a motorcycle to a funeral where the death involved a motorcycle is not the same as wearing jeans cause the deceased liked jeans or playing a guitar cause he liked guitar. Parents don't fear jeans and guitars. My mom has a VERY real fear of my motorcycle and I have to convience her often that it makes me happy and that it is worth the risk.

Well, thats part of life. I understand every side. I'm not really choosing one. Go in 4 wheels, go on 2, hell go in a fucking helicopter. I dont care. I just see it as it was his life. Parents can hold on to their kids as much as they "think" they can but he bought a bike to ride, to enjoy, and to take risk. His mom can blame motorcycles all she wants. Its not going to bring her son back or mostly change anyone's mind to get off of one.

Showing up on a motorcycle as a means of transportation is not a dick move. Not every bike owner uses his/her bike to make their dicks/vag bigger. Its a mean to get to places. Now if someone shows up revving their engines and flipping people off that hate moto's then yes, that would be a dick move.

Her son was killed in an accident, not by some serial killer. Now if he was and the killer requested to be at the boys funeral. Now I can see a crazy shit storm happening.

[pauldun170]

So if your friend was big into snakes (and eaten by his pet snake) and his mom hated snakes would it be inappropriate to reenact the scene from Indiana Jones where they are in that room filled with snakes even though your buddy made you pinky swear to that if either of you died that the other would organize a 10 man dancing troop to do an interpretive dance version of that one scene (with detailed instructions on style of dress and accents?)

I iknow the man hates snakes and is fricken mortified by them, but you pinky swore to a fallen brother.

[pauldun170]

As for the folks who would organize a ride in spite of the mom, what if she had stocked the refrigerator with Sunny-D?
Doesn't that count for anything?

[Rangerscott]

Here's a definition of a dick move that I got to see first hand.


Brother calls his father to tell him that his wife can not come to their wedding. She's not mean or anything. Just doesn't want her there.

[pauldun170]

Originally Posted by Rangerscott

Here's a definition of a dick move that I got to see first hand.


Brother calls his father to tell him that his wife can not come to their wedding. She's not mean or anything. Just doesn't want her there.

Damn

[OneSickPsycho]

Originally Posted by CrazyKell

Fortunately I've never been in this situation.

I probably wouldn't ride to the funeral since it's not a "riding situation" for me. If it were a large group showing it out of solidarity or whatever, well I might consider it.

But for the most part, I'd want to respect the mother and not aggravate her on an already terrible day in her life.

Agreed. A funeral is not the time to prove a point.