The Abruptness of Motherfu*king Life.

Kaneman · 06-06-2010, 07:42 PM

My wife works on Saturday so to celebrate my son Michael's first day of summer I took him golfing, as he'd been dying to use his new set of clubs. It was his first time on the course and he did great. Luckily I'm bad enough that he didn't even slow me down any, and had a few 50-75yd drives and sunk a 20ft putt after chipping to the green. We were on 15 and looking to finish all 18

Its Texas, so by default it was hotter than that Tater guy's mother's pillow. But the birds were flying, the breeze was blowing and we had a full cooler of drinks and plenty of shade around.

On the fairway at 15 my cell phone rang, it was my "step-son" 's Dad. Short story is that when I was 19 and 3 weeks before my lil' brother was killed in a car wreck, I hooked up with a girl who had a baby boy named Jayden from an absent father. I was with her and him for the next 6 years and I raised Jayden as my own.

It didn't work out, I got out of town for a while and came back and resumed fatherly duties for Jayden. The ex found a good guy who is a good Dad to Jayden and cordial with me as well they married and had a baby boy, and I married as well. We get Jayden every other weekend and include him in all of our family activities and pictures and so forth.

So I answered the phone and he told me that they had been in a bad car wreck and Jayden and his lil' brother had been Careflighted to Children's. That was yesterday. Jayden has a fractured skull, eye socket, vertebrae and leg. He has not regained consciousness yet, though the Dr's are hopeful (as always I suppose.) His lil' 1.5 year old brother Greysen is critical and has brain damage, if he is not already brain dead.

Just like that. One minute we're watching a Hawk defend his nest from predators on the 11th hole, the next we're tearing ass to the hospital. Of course, its happened to us all, and happened to me a few times before as well...but the abruptness of it, the sudden change in everything is never something I get used to. Its like jumping into ice cold water. How do we tell a 10 year old boy his brother is all fucked up now when he wakes up?

azoomm · 06-06-2010, 07:46 PM

Oh Josh. Oh no.

Damn.

I'm so sorry. Hug him. Love him. Cherish him. Y'all are in my thoughts.

Sixxxxer · 06-06-2010, 07:47 PM

Wow. I'm deeply sorry for your situation. As I well as pretty mich everyone on here can say we have all been there before when life just throws you a curveball from hell.

I wish him and the little one a healthy and painfree recovery.

Cass · 06-06-2010, 07:49 PM

Holy fuck man. Good juju for Jayden and Greysen both. I sincerely hope the best for them.

VatorMan · 06-06-2010, 07:49 PM

Soooo sorry for you and yours. I'll pass good thoughts your way.

pauldun170 · 06-06-2010, 08:02 PM

Damn...

Not sure what to say other than you guys are in our thoughts and we are sending positive karma (or what ever you want to call it) your way

Kaneman · 06-06-2010, 08:03 PM

There's never anything you can really say man, I just wanted to write it all out like. Thanks for the words guys and gals.

Sixxxxer · 06-06-2010, 08:09 PM

You would be surprised what writing can do for you...I used to write about my feelings all the time. Sometimes it just helps you mentally handle the massive situation your dealing with.

NONE_too_SOFT · 06-06-2010, 08:12 PM

I dont pray, but i hear it helps.

Apoc · 06-06-2010, 08:29 PM

Wow man. Im sorry. Theres not much I can say, besides if you need to vent, shoot me a pm. What a horrible situation

06-06-2010, 07:42 PM	#1
Kaneman AMA Supersport Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Odessa, TX Moto: 2000 Honda CBR1100XX Blackbird Posts: 4,931	*The Abruptness of Motherfuking Life.** My wife works on Saturday so to celebrate my son Michael's first day of summer I took him golfing, as he'd been dying to use his new set of clubs. It was his first time on the course and he did great. Luckily I'm bad enough that he didn't even slow me down any, and had a few 50-75yd drives and sunk a 20ft putt after chipping to the green. We were on 15 and looking to finish all 18 Its Texas, so by default it was hotter than that Tater guy's mother's pillow. But the birds were flying, the breeze was blowing and we had a full cooler of drinks and plenty of shade around. On the fairway at 15 my cell phone rang, it was my "step-son" 's Dad. Short story is that when I was 19 and 3 weeks before my lil' brother was killed in a car wreck, I hooked up with a girl who had a baby boy named Jayden from an absent father. I was with her and him for the next 6 years and I raised Jayden as my own. It didn't work out, I got out of town for a while and came back and resumed fatherly duties for Jayden. The ex found a good guy who is a good Dad to Jayden and cordial with me as well they married and had a baby boy, and I married as well. We get Jayden every other weekend and include him in all of our family activities and pictures and so forth. So I answered the phone and he told me that they had been in a bad car wreck and Jayden and his lil' brother had been Careflighted to Children's. That was yesterday. Jayden has a fractured skull, eye socket, vertebrae and leg. He has not regained consciousness yet, though the Dr's are hopeful (as always I suppose.) His lil' 1.5 year old brother Greysen is critical and has brain damage, if he is not already brain dead. Just like that. One minute we're watching a Hawk defend his nest from predators on the 11th hole, the next we're tearing ass to the hospital. Of course, its happened to us all, and happened to me a few times before as well...but the abruptness of it, the sudden change in everything is never something I get used to. Its like jumping into ice cold water. How do we tell a 10 year old boy his brother is all fucked up now when he wakes up? __________________ 1982 Honda XR80 - blown motor, 1993 Kawasaki ZX6D - sold, 2001 Suzuki Bandit 1200S - sold, 1984 Honda Magna - sold, 2001 Kawasaki ZRX1200R - blown motor, 2007 Suzuki DL1000 V-Strom - totalled, 2003 Yamaha FZ1 - sold, 1994 Honda Magna - sold, 2001 Honda CBR600F4i - sold, 1998 Suzuki DR350 - stolen, 1989 Honda Super Magna - sold, 2007 Yamaha Stratoliner, 2000 Honda CBR 1100XX Blackbird

06-06-2010, 07:49 PM	#4
Cass Cassolicious! Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Austin, TX Moto: SV Posts: 1,377	Holy fuck man. Good juju for Jayden and Greysen both. I sincerely hope the best for them. __________________ Begin at the beginning and go on till you come to the end: then stop.

06-06-2010, 08:03 PM	#7
Kaneman AMA Supersport Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Odessa, TX Moto: 2000 Honda CBR1100XX Blackbird Posts: 4,931	There's never anything you can really say man, I just wanted to write it all out like. Thanks for the words guys and gals. __________________ 1982 Honda XR80 - blown motor, 1993 Kawasaki ZX6D - sold, 2001 Suzuki Bandit 1200S - sold, 1984 Honda Magna - sold, 2001 Kawasaki ZRX1200R - blown motor, 2007 Suzuki DL1000 V-Strom - totalled, 2003 Yamaha FZ1 - sold, 1994 Honda Magna - sold, 2001 Honda CBR600F4i - sold, 1998 Suzuki DR350 - stolen, 1989 Honda Super Magna - sold, 2007 Yamaha Stratoliner, 2000 Honda CBR 1100XX Blackbird

06-06-2010, 08:29 PM	#10
Apoc For Science. You Monster. Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Canada Moto: '08 HD FLSTSB Posts: 3,546	Wow man. Im sorry. Theres not much I can say, besides if you need to vent, shoot me a pm. What a horrible situation __________________ Android OS causes gay. Dont let your child use Android (unless she's a hot female). And dont let your babies grow up to be cowboys, either.

06-06-2010, 07:46 PM	#2
azoomm moderator chick Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Hill Country TX Moto: Pasta Rockets Posts: 8,917	Oh Josh. Oh no. Damn. I'm so sorry. Hug him. Love him. Cherish him. Y'all are in my thoughts.

06-06-2010, 07:47 PM	#3
Sixxxxer Like Gixxxxer But Not Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Dirty Jersey Moto: 2008 ZX6R Posts: 4,891	Wow. I'm deeply sorry for your situation. As I well as pretty mich everyone on here can say we have all been there before when life just throws you a curveball from hell. I wish him and the little one a healthy and painfree recovery.

06-06-2010, 07:49 PM	#5
VatorMan Wrap Yo Ass in Fiberglass Join Date: Feb 2008 Moto: Feet Posts: 1,605	Soooo sorry for you and yours. I'll pass good thoughts your way.

06-06-2010, 08:09 PM	#8
Sixxxxer Like Gixxxxer But Not Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Dirty Jersey Moto: 2008 ZX6R Posts: 4,891	You would be surprised what writing can do for you...I used to write about my feelings all the time. Sometimes it just helps you mentally handle the massive situation your dealing with.

06-06-2010, 08:12 PM	#9
NONE_too_SOFT Chopstix / \ Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Akron OH Moto: 03 CBR RR Posts: 5,350	I dont pray, but i hear it helps.