Dear Abby...

[Adeptus_Minor]

Originally Posted by jtemple

I'm All for corporal punishment. I use it on my own son. The key is to figure out what is effective on your child and follow through with punishments. If your punishments are nothing but empty threats, they are guaranteed to fail.

If you are going to use physical punishment on a child, it is very important that you dish it out without anger. If you are angry, Send your kid to their room while you cool off. Parents that get angry and punish their children are more likely to lose control and take it too far.

As stated above, be quick to show your child some love after punishment.

Best way I could think to put it.

[the chi]

Originally Posted by fatbuckRTO

Jesus Christ, my dad would have taken me in the back yard and made me a cripple. And rightly so.

My mom slapped me one time when I was about 14, and I saw it coming and could have caught her hand. I didn't because I knew exactly what would have happened to me if I did.

Reminds me of the one and only time I got in my mom's face, sorta (shes 8 inches taller than me). We were arguing, and I antagonized her into hitting me. Moms got one HELLUVA right hook. I never saw it coming! Then I did it again!! Thats the one and only time my mom EVER hit me like that, and I asked for it, literally!

Other than that, yeah, corporal punishment does require love, and respect on both parts.

[pickle.of.doom]

Hmmm...

My mom used to spank me with a ping pong paddle.

One day I had enough of that, grabbed it, started hitting her back with it.

[rogue]

Here's a good story:

I was 16 the last time my mama whipped me. She had grounded me from the phone & busted me using it when I *thought* she was asleep. She got me good with the belt. I squirmed the whole time she whipped me, causing me to have red marks the width of the belt in other places other than my ass. Being a rebellous shit, I threatened to call the cops on her for child abuse & she called my bluff by diaing the number & handing me the phone. So a cop came, asked questions & looked at all the red marks on my legs and even one on my chest. After making his inspection, he looked me right in the eyes & told me I deserved it, then left.

I guess hearing the cop take up for & that it was ok for her to "beat me" (this was in the late '80's), I didn't do anything else to warrant that type of punishment.

[njchopper87]

I had my ass beat with a ruler, spatula, fly swatter, and other random cooking utensils. I deserved it each and every time.. I plan on doing the same to my kids as well. It works. Agreed though with the fine line shit.

[Mr Lefty]

Originally Posted by JARVIS518

got my ass beat with belts and whatever else that was in reach of my dad,
i turned out ok i think

same here... my dad favored his leather gun strap... fucker hurt!

[Cutty72]

a smack on the ass when you're young makes a mere look from the old man efficient when you are older.

[Quick281]

I was a pretty good kid so my mom says I only got spanked maybe once or twice in my life. I did however still get in trouble for little stuff.

One day however I was about 15 and we were heading home from school. I was in the passenger seat just yelling and bitching about something retarded, probably calling her names and stuff. My step father had just passed away so we were rather tense.

Anyways I was practically asking to be slapped and my 58 year old mother somehow hit a bump while extending her arm and she managed to elbow my head straight into the passenger window.

I silenced up instantly and even though she had no intention of doing that to me, she played it off. None the less I got my shit together RIGHT THE FUCK AWAY.

My kids will be spanked when they are little but at they grow older I will hope that there will be no need for slapping but I would not hesitate to slap either a daughter or son if one of them were to raise a hand to my wife of the future. But for things like grades, allowances and general obedience I expect to take things like cell phones and cars away.

But shit, I don't plan to be a parent for years!

[Cutty72]

One prob with that though. Kind of hard to take away cell phones and cars if they don't have them!

My kids won't have a cell... and they won't have a car till they can buy their own.

[Quick281]

Originally Posted by Cutty72

One prob with that though. Kind of hard to take away cell phones and cars if they don't have them!

My kids won't have a cell... and they won't have a car till they can buy their own.

True but you can always do things like ground them and take away basic internet/house phone/hanging out with friends. Kids always have something they don't want to lose.