Life is pretty dull when you play it safe. If you don't take a chance you never reap the reward.
I see so MANY of you post on here about your huge TV's or new gadgets and how everyone should jump on board and ride the "new fad" train.
We all drool over bikes and goodies and dream about what we'd do if we HAD money....yet I see JUST as many posts about empty hearts and how your personal lives suck. About how you never can get laid (married), or your spouse or girlfriend isn't fulfilling you....granted...those that post that kind of stuff really aren’t self-aware enough to know that’s what they are posting, but basically it boils down to they aren't being fulfilled.
Some of you (men) are so very bitter and or afraid of putting your heart out there that you can’t FIND a significant other, so you focus on yourself 100% (BTW…that’s not an effective way of FINDING anyone either….just so you know) and you sit among your toys and “things” and you’re miserable.
Trust me when I say that that misery comes thru in posts.
Yes my first marriage failed. And yes I DID learn a great deal from it. While I applied SOME of the principle of “pleasing your spouse” to my first marriage, I didn’t make it my top priority. In the end, she wanted something other than what I could offer her….something a LOT of people revert to when they’re not willing to take a chance and put their heart out there and risk having someone damage it……THINGS…….she wanted a house in a gated community, as well as a lake home in the neighborhood all the VP’s of her company lived in. And since I was just a mere engineer with no aspirations of being a vice president of ANYTHING…..she chose a VP at her company who HAD all that. She left to pursue him and after 5 years of stringing her along, dumping her, running back to her, dumping her……..etc….his wife found out about their affair and he’s now out with the shirt on his back sleeping on my ex’s couch
That’s basically what happened. I’m not bitter, nor do I resent her. She just wasn’t willing to take the chance on letting anyone in, for fear of getting hurt. Her whole life was full of hurt and full of abandonment so I can’t say I blame her. However I WAS willing to take that chance, and I DID get hurt. I DID fail. But I put on my big girl panties, I quit crying and I tried again.
If you fail at something once are you forever a failure? If your favorite team loses a game are they labeled losers forever? Even if you try and fail, it doesn't mean that you didn't learn something, it means you had the BALLS to try in the first place. And if that try failed….you’ve got even bigger balls to TRY again. Anyone who writes off someone because they had a failure, and feels they have nothing to ever offer up, is just a fucking moron, especially if they’ve not even TRIED themselves to begin with.
Now, I’m a few years older, and knew what I was looking for. And at the TOP of the list was finding someone that knew who they were, and knew what they wanted….and were willing to take a huge risk to get it.
I found that.
And granted….YES, I may very well get hurt one day..I may get taken advantage of….but DAMN whatta ride I’m on right now! I could die today and I’d have lived a totally fulfilled complete life. And I don’t need a DAMN thing but my wife and kids.
Can you can sit there and say that?.
12-29-2009, 10:41 AM
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